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Etiquette Guide For Select Single Gentleman

Fact - 99% of males without a partner looking to hook up with swingers are doomed to complete failure!

If you as a single male get invited to attend a party, then clearly you are part of the lucky 1%.

How can we as single men get even luckier?

We can do this by following a few simple steps and the application of a measure of common sense. First thing to understand is that we (single males) are not swingers! You might want to be a swinger, you may even convince yourself that you indeed are but unless you have a partner you are only fooling yourself. Take the view that we are an honoured guest (because clearly we are, think about it; a married man openly and willingly allowing us the pleasure to make love to his wife while he watches.) and behave accordingly.
Keep in mind that you are in contact with a couple. Asking if the female will meet you alone is the surest way to get an unsavoury reputation, not just with the couple in question but with all those in their circle. Swingers like everyone else, love to exchange information for good and bad. You would be amazed at how quickly names of undesirables circulate.

Be honest. Remember we are talking about hooking up for face to face sex. If you are making claims that you are unable to substantiate in the flesh then the couple WILL walk away. You have not just wasted their time but you have wasted your own and effectively ruined your future prospects.

There is no reason to lie to a couple about ANYTHING, even if you are married (granted there may be significantly less couples wanting to play with you, but at least everything is up front and adults are free to choose). These people are smart and may let you get by with it for awhile, but eventually will "let you go". REMEMBER: Many of these couples exchange information and especially when someone is tagged "untrustworthy" they make sure they pass the info along.

MARRIED MEN LOOKING FOR AN EASY LAY

Forget it; it ain't gonna happen for long. Swinging isn't for you. Of course you know better right? OK, let me explain it to you. Swinging is a free and open lifestyle based on honesty and a guilt-free relationship. Sneaking away while your wife is at work for some "discreet sex" is the complete opposite of what swinging is about. You try to force your way into a lifestyle where you are clearly not welcome by using the same lies and deception you practice on your wife. It causes nothing but resentment. You expose swingers to personal and physical attacks by your wife, lie about your marital status, make it all but impossible for the REAL singles to join swingers, waste so much time with your lies and deceptions and cause more trouble than any other group of people.

Of course you are thinking "I will just lie and claim to be single"; after all you are lying to your wife so why not lie to others. Wise up, swingers have had more than enough and are very aware of every cheap little trick you can think of. Any experienced swinger can spot a married cheat on the horizon with ease.

Off-Premise Rules For Select Single Gentleman To Live By To Have A Great Time

"Select" means that you must be clean, polite, well dressed and well mannered. In short, you must be a classy guy.

Be a gentleman AND a classy guy. Just because a woman likes sex, doesn't mean she appreciates vulgar language or suggestive remarks. Good manners and social skills are more important here than anywhere else.

Dress nice, like you're going on a date. Because you ARE going on a date! When you know you will be having an intimate encounter with your mate, you take extra special care in your daily hygiene routine, right? Well multiply that ten times for this lifestyle. On a first date you spend extra time brushing & flossing your teeth, showering, shaving, doing your hair and putting on your best cologne. Treat this like a first date, get extra cleaned up and dress to impress! Leave your torn or baggy jeans or shorts and T-shirt, tank top and baseball cap at home, you're not in high school any more so don't dress like it.

The strictly enforced dress code is:

No Sweat or Warm Up Suits
No Torn and Tattered Jeans
No Torn or baggy excessively worn clothing
No baseball caps
No sandals
No old sneakers

Dress to impress... Because isn't that what you do when you go on a date?! REMEMBER if in doubt about what to wear, it is always better to over dress rather than under dress. First impressions are extremely important because we never get a second chance to make a first impression!

Don't assume that just because you talk or dance with someone that they want to have sex with you. And, don't get too aggressive on the dance floor or any-place else within the club, etc.. unless you get the clear message that it's OK. If you get that message, go with it, just don't go overboard. You should be asking, "Is this okay"?

Introduce yourself to both the husband and his wife. Never wait until The husband leaves his wife and sneak up to meet her without him present, or wait to ambush her as she heads to the ladies room.

 This is a social club and the ladies here are upscale wives and girlfriends and above all, they are ladies, not escorts. Treat them like ladies.

Don't ignore the husband. No matter how much his wife likes you, if the husband doesn't like you, you're not getting anywhere with her. This doesn't mean you need to spend all night talking with him, but introduce yourself and be cordial and play it by ear.

If someone tells you "NO" that's all there is to it. It's not open for discussion! Don't ask them, "why not?" or "are you sure, I'm the greatest lover in the world?" They are not interested in you joining them no matter how great of a lover or how big your dick might be!

All in all, it's real simple; be a gentleman, be classy, be friendly, and treat people well. Everyone has a much better evening if the ladies have a fun time, and if they do, then you've got a great chance at having a really fun time with them.

Appropriate Behaviour For Joining A Couple

A true gentleman AND classy guy in the swinging lifestyle is non-threatening to the male spouse's virility...He's happy to be sharing in the encounter and doesn't try to monopolize it... He knows his place in the bedroom and out...He is also a friend of BOTH spouses, yet slightly closer to the male.

In A Nutshell... Be A Classy Guy!

1) Always be polite.

2) Never assume.

3) Ask permission before touching.

4) 'No' means 'No'. Accept it gracefully. No one pleases everybody. And never think that you know more about what she wants than she does! If she or her husband says "No", then that's exactly what they mean, don't question "Why". It's not open for discussion. If they have to tell you twice, then you are no longer welcome and you will be asked to leave.

5) If you're unsure about proper procedures or what's allowed, Ask!

6) Most people in the club have a partner; include them in your conversation when appropriate.

7) Mind your manners. Be on your very best behaviour.

8) Pay attention to non-verbal signals, both positive and negative. Body language speaks much louder than actual words. Act accordingly!

9) When talking to other people in the club that you are interested in, make sure you understand their personal rules and boundaries. Every one is different.

10) Admission to the club DOES NOT guarantee that you will have sex, but only that you will be admitted to the club. No one owes you anything and you shouldn't expect anything from anyone.

11) If you have a problem with someone at the club, PLEASE tell the management and let them handle it, not you. Never create or contribute to a "scene".

12) If you're new and have additional questions about the club or the lifestyle, ask to speak to one of the regular member couples. They will be happy to answer any questions you might have. It's also a great way to start a conversation!

13) Class and style will get you much further than pushiness, arrogance or macho crass behaviour.

14) Be aware of how much you drink. No one is attracted to or impressed with, or wants to be around a drunk. This is a social club, NOT a drinking club.

If you follow these guidelines, you should have a great time and make lots of new sexy friends!


Etiquette Guide For Women and Couples

1. Visit the swingers club’s online site:

Most clubs are going to have an online website for you to visit. This is a great way to get a sneak peek into the club and figure out general information regarding what the club has to offer and their rules. Do they have any upcoming theme nights? I know from a woman’s standpoint I want to know the dress code before I attend a new venue. what nights the club is open, and the hours. Look at pictures online of the club to be sure it’s what you are looking for. There are many types of clubs: bars, nightclubs, house parties. From the photos you should be able to tell if the club has the atmosphere you’re searching for.

2. Allow yourself time to acclimate once in the swingers club:

This step is important! Sometimes coming into a swingers club can be a bit of sensory overload. The surprise isn’t so much about all the other couples or singles in the club, but about the reality of the atmosphere compared to what your imagination conjured up. This is my favourite part of seeing a new couple come into the club–one of them (typically the woman) is a little apprehensive in the beginning, but as the evening progresses she relaxes and ends up having a spectacular time! This is another reason why spending the time going over what you do and don’t want to do on the first visit is so vital. Sometimes saying, “let’s just go check it out, we don’t have to play on our first visit” is a good idea.

3. Respect the swingers club’s rules:

Protecting our visitors is of the utmost importance. Most clubs, when visiting for the first time, will go over the club rules with you in addition to taking you on a guided tour. The club has these rules in place so everyone will feel secure and to ensure the best experience possible for those in attendance. The staff will answer questions and some clubs will have “host” couples (seasoned swingers) who are also available to answer any questions in addition to welcoming the “newbies.”

4. Hygiene:

Your night might very well end with physical intimacy, whether with your partner or someone new, so being conscious of your body and appearance is something you will want to pay special attention. These steps while seemingly obvious, are sometimes missed:
a) fresh breath (teeth brushed, mints, mouthwash)
b) clean body (showered, deodorant)
c) being prepared (condoms, lube)
d) clean hair (styled, rubber bands to pull it back)
Remember it’s about being at your best!
5. Setting up and respecting your own rules before entering:

Not only is visiting a swingers club new and exciting, it also offers a great line of communication between partners and internal conversation for single people. One of the topics that should be discussed is what the comfort level is of those attending. For those of you who are single, spend some time getting to know what you are comfortable with doing (or not doing). The same goes for couples. The biggest point to remember is to honour and value the comfort level and requests made by your partner or yourself. It is also important to point out that these rules and guidelines can be fluid–what you may not feel comfortable with doing right now may change into something you decide you do like down the road. Again, it’s about communication and trust. One of the misconceptions of swinger clubs is they are these wild and crazy orgies, where no one’s boundaries are respected. That is so not the case! Swingers actually spend quite a lot of time setting and re-evaluating rules and guidelines so everyone involved comes away with an enhancing experience.

6. Get to know your play partners:

Sometimes just being in a swingers club is enough to throw people off their game. Some will have this perception that sex is the only thing of interest to the people inside. So, instead of trying to get to know others, the conversation will go something like this, “Hi, my name is so and so, I’ve been told I’m great at pleasing women. I would love to please you.” I just want to say, “are you kidding me?!” The first thing I try to tell new people is our club is no different than any other place you meet new people. Just relax and get to know everyone. Swingers are members of society. They have families, jobs, goals, car problems, and family issues. The one difference is they have decided to enhance their union through playing with others. To me, the friendships gained through these conversations have been at times just as inspiring and enhancing as the sex.

7. Drink responsibly:

I can’t think of a worse way to end what could have been a great evening by consuming too much alcohol. To much of a good thing can really get in the way of a successful sexual encounter. I looked up the effects alcohol has on men and women.
Did you know alcohol is a depressant? Did you know alcohol tends to have deleterious effects on male sexual performance? Did you know women have a higher percentage of body fat and less water in their bodies, and therefore, alcohol can have a quicker, more severe impact? Did you know women’s bodies take longer to process alcohol; more precisely, a woman’s body often takes one-third longer to eliminate the substance? If you find alcohol is starting to dominate your evenings out, why not put in place a “sober” swing night and see what happens?

8. Respect the rules of others:

Once you have located a couple or single you click with, at some point during the evening the conversation may shift to venturing into the playrooms. People don’t usually carry a list of their rules and guidelines and then exchange those rules with potential partners. No, usually this conversation will naturally progress once the topic of sex is broached. I find it happens pretty naturally, the simple sharing of experiences and what partners or singles like or dislike. When a rule or guideline is shared it is important to make a note of it and not cross or disrespect the rule. Swinging is about trust, and not just trusting your partner, but trusting other partners as well.

9. Respecting the playrooms:

Our club has lots of different play areas. Semi-private rooms enable people to play in an area where they can be discreetly watched by others. We also have private areas, and as the name implies, these are for people who prefer not to be viewed. Our clubs also offer a voyeur room–this room enables a group setting, where several couples can enjoy and experience a multilevel sexual encounter together. The playrooms are just that, a place to play. These areas are not for loud conversation or encroaching in on someone’s play space. It’s an area where the club rules and the rules of the people playing should be respected. Each of these areas has separate and distinct rules to ensure the safety and respect of all our patrons.

10. Playing clean and safe:

So here you are, you have ventured into a swingers club, met some fantastic people, clicked, and are now in the playrooms ready to take the experience to the next level. Just like with hygiene, we want to offer the best of ourselves. This is why condoms, female condoms, dental dams, gloves, or no sexual penetration with anyone other than your partner can be ways to protect against infection. 
Remember, these experiences are about growing and expanding yourself sexually as well as emotionally. So whatever your comfort level, remember this is all about what you make it–so make it great!

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